How to make positive changes in your life
Motivational quote
Changes. As a rapper named Two packs of Sugar once sang, it’s just the way it is. Change is inevitable in this mortal coil as we should all know. It is what makes us grow, as well as what can get in the way of said growth. If you had a ten dollar bill and only needed $8.50, well, you're gonna have to make some change then. Just like in that scenario there, best practice is to try to be in control of the change. It’s about taking the ever changing uncertainties that is life in your hands, and shaping the changes into an affect that favours the outcomes you desire.
“The risks and odds they are not stacked against me, but under me, giving me height to see all eventual outcomes that lay before me upon my path towards a better life.”
This is not a casino, where the odds of winning depend on the casino(sheets rigged!). Naw mon amis, this is you are the odds, and the evens, and the outcome. Push all in your favour I say. See the outcomes as you stack the odds in favour of your win. You're not playing your life for a chance at the outcome to win. No, you know you're going to win, its just a matter of time. Proper planning, and giving yourself the chances, as you place your change in the slot of a game you call '“ life,” and pulling the handle to your destiny you are trying to craft. It's your game that you're building here. Why not build it so you could win it.
No, I am not a gambler. Sounds like I am I know. No, I'm just a visualizer of a visual of a past time. An old fuddy-duddy. A rambler that is not a gambler. I don't gamble as I hate when they create the suspense of THEIR odds for me on their games. I like my own odds, my own game called my life. There are risks as well, many though, calculated I will admit. I will also admit, there is a lot more than I would like that are not calculated, but then again, you gotta live, and live with a smile sometimes. I prefer real chances, not fake ones created by a system that is designed to see more fail then win. The risks and odds they are not stacked against me, but under me, giving me height to see all eventual outcomes that lay before me upon my path towards a better life. I even foresee the obstacles that I have to figure out, and how to go beyond them if I choose certain paths before me. But what are obstacles but if not a chance to grow, and learn, and test your abilities. There is wisdom in all of that if one can purge ego and put on the mind of a universal student. One who can learn from all, and see all as a teacher.
Power/Lightening
“I rationalize and over rationalize sometimes, putting thought and strategy before my heart.”
You have the power within your mind to better your odds within this thing called life just by honing your thoughts and directing them. Just by changing an attitude. If your down, focus on picking yourself up. You say, ‘come on Sam, it’s not that easy brah!’ And I say, you think it’s not easy, but what if it was? It’s easy for you to think in the negative or to drift towards the negative, wasn't it? Question your negative approach anytime you are dwelling on it folks. To do this is to break ego thus allowing change. Change of mind from acting like a teacher, and truly embracing a student mentality again. One willing to learn, venture, and try. Ego can even be steadfast in negativity, not just superfluous ideology that you are the best, so why listen to the rest. It’s your mindset, that u are meant for this or that, even a negative life. Be careful as ego can make you steadfast in becoming whatever it is you think you are, even doomed. When this happens, the negativity can seep in. I say Posit the reverse and question selfs negative trait(s). The down trodden mental state that so many can find themselves in. As easy as you can find yourself in it, is as easy as you can find yourself outta it by questioning it. It can break your egotistical hold on yourself by allowing doubt. Doubt can be a bad thing but in this case, can be used for good. Doubt that you are doomed. Doubt that u are meant to be negative or for negative. Doubt it all. And as you doubt, focus on the reverse. That maybe you can succeed in being better, winning more battles than you feel you have lost.
Feelings, blah. I was never much for feelings even as a kid my mother would tell you. That she would have to beg me for a hug. I’m more, up top. More mental than anything. I rationalize and over rationalize sometimes, putting thought and strategy before my heart.
Staircase in the dark
“I was the sole creator of these thoughts within the darkness of my life. The main perpetrator of the negativity that I was drowning in mentally within my surroundings.….”
If you haven’t read my article called the darkness, I think you should. you can find it here. That same darkness that so many find themselves wondering in aimlessly and afraid, can be used for good here. I use it to block out all the nonsense as in the dark, things are harder to see. The good and the bad. Its unfortunate even the good is harder to see as well in the dark, but it is what it is some loss for a gain of peace. Sacrifices must be made. I use it to block out the negative thoughts, the terrible whispers of self defeat. Of not being enough, or doing enough. The thoughts of how I was meant to loose, meant to know no wins no victories. I have taught myself to become the eye of the storm, the storm being my life and the negativity that has grasped it, and that swirls around it. This place can beckon defeat if you let it.
For I’ve always had a rough life ever since my early teens. Ask me about it sometime and I might share a tale of a tale while spinning no yarn. Over the course of all the darkness I encountered, which wasn’t evil, just a feeling of unknowing where was going next, where was gonna sleep, what was I gonna eat, why I felt like I couldn’t be loved nor cared for it anymore and partially still don’t. Did I harden my heart or just hardened my spirit to endure the sh*t storm that was my life?
“What else did I have to loose. I already felt like I lost myself. Why not find a new self within the lost self.”
I took hold of something during the many years of bleakness….Truth. The truth I wasn’t bad, wasn’t good, just was. And I had to make a choice not to just be, but be. What I found was that nothing was making me think these things but me. I was the sole creator of these thoughts within the darkness of my life. The main perpetrator of the negativity that I was drowning in mentally within my surroundings. No I was not blaming myself, nor did I want to blame anyone else, things just were. Just new after a while that no matter lifes uncertainties, the one thing I could be certain about was me. Changes folks. My circumstances may of changed, and so did my mentality, towards the negative. Should my spirit as well? Was I gonna let the negative that surrounded me to corrupt my core? Fook no, may it never be.
To stay strong amongst so much wrong, even if some of the wrong was you, requires great mental fortitude and an ability to see your wrongs for change. You need understanding of life, of self, of better and yearning for better and to be better and willingness to climb the staircase of life to better, from out of the gutter you are are in, and into the light of your win. For my mental state had become, well if the world seemed to be pushing me to suffer, I’ll do the opposite then. If the world wanted me to be dark, then I chose to try to be a light. If not unto others, then at least unto my self. I would become my hope and not place my hope in others. What else did I have to loose. I already felt like I lost myself. Why not find a new self within the lost self. I like adventure. Why not push back against the negatives in this place, in me. Man in the mirror time. It was time to face him and face him I did. He was ugly, dreadful, no hate, no evil, but a quiet anger, a quiet rage that can be seen as calm, and it was calm. I was never prone to anger. Was a thinker, methodical. Anger was always beneath me. It took defeating the summama b*tch, that ego I had even though poor and homeless. I stopped thinking I deserved more, and started becoming more.
Reflection time
“…..Mine was myself. Is that ego? Or is it wisdom? Why fight another if your trying to be peaceful, why not fight yourself, than makeup with yourself, then work together to become better with yourself. “
Defeating ego when at your lowest point is not easy, but if you can, you realize just how strong your will is. I had a few spiritual life lines from upabove help me out too. Believe we all have Guardian Angels. It was time I used mine. Oh how strong your mindset can bewhen you face yourself and gain wisdom amongst your knowledge. You see potential in self, in creating self or changing self. In your darkest hours, you see your light. And that light which is in all of us can light a path back to strength, back to mental stability, back to will, back to wisdom. And you will win, and will find your wins through change of mentality. David and goliath. Small changes can lead to big wins over time. From one of defeat, to one of trying, to one of winning, is my mindset now. My steps may not be noticed by all here in the Earthy, but they are noticed from up above and on the opposite side of us. Each step I take towards love, peace, harmony, kindness of self and others, all in a place that I felt never wanted me to be and still doesn’t at times. Which I am glad for as I have transformed into a fighter of peace. Every good fighter needs a foe to fight against to feel like they can earn their win. Mine was myself. Is that ego? Or is it wisdom? Why fight another if your trying to be peaceful, why not fight yourself, than makeup with yourself, then work together to become better with yourself.
I am here now, shining my light that I've worked tirelessly to not let this place snuff out, and guess what, so can you be your own triumph amongst defeat. Do not be ruled by life, but learn to rule your life. Amen folks, amen.
Samuel Friday
Personal/Motivational Coach
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Here is a video of me talking to a random pigeon while on one of my spirit walks with the Universe.
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